Create the Space for Change
What is your position
What is your motivation
Do you want to see someone achieve
Or do you want to see yourself achieve
You cannot have both
Most of the time
The mother
Is supposed to give it her all to raise a child
There is much that is left behind to raise a child
Losing also creates gaining
You miss your hair appointment
Your child gets to learn new skills
You miss out on seeing a movie
Your child learns how to pass a test
Some people hold on to what they want
Their children are miserable
The parent acts more immature than the child
The child moves far away from the parent
Hostility is created
When the parent wants and does not want to give
The role of the parent
Is created by the parent
Do not attempt to be a parent
If you do not want to give everything to the child
Your time
Your patience
Your love
Your understanding
Every day
Every day for the rest of your life
You are there to serve
In return you have created the example of giving
Nothing more
Hopefully your creation continues the example of giving
For every generous person
There is a parent that was generous to the child
For every selfish person in this world
There is a parent who was selfish with that child
Without a loving environment
How can a child understand love
This is a great challenge to overcome
This makes becoming a parent for the child very difficult
Can it be done
Yes, but it requires more effort
Look at the duality when two people marry
That were both raised by selfish parents
Pure chaos
Pure disharmony
They fight over time and money
Neither of them want any responsibility
Why
Because they are both selfish
Selfish parent
Create selfish children
Selfish children
Become selfish parents
It is a terrible cycle
But is can be changed
It is a challenge
But it can be changed
If you love yourself
You will change yourself
Give yourself the space for change
Give your significant other the space for change
How can someone change
If you are nagging them to change
It will never happen
Because you are being selfish
People change
When they are given the opportunity to change
Patience
Compassion
Love
Understanding
Change is difficult
For everyone including you
Take the first step
Give
Give to the most selfish person you know
Give until there you think you can’t give anything else
Once you are finished giving
Give more
This will break the cycle
This will transform you both
Sat Nam
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